I dreamed of the moment when my daughter would meet her baby sister. It would be magical. I had visions of the hospital room when big sister would timidly peer in at the new baby. Being shy at first, but curious. Maybe reaching out to touch baby or just staring at her in amazement. Then sitting with me to hold her and cuddle in and cherish the start of our four-person family.
Yah, it didn’t quite happen like that.
Here is how it really went down:
I push out Baby Sister M close to midnight on a Monday. Little N is with Grandma and we plan to have them visit the following day.
We wake up the next morning. Wait, we don’t ‘wake up’ because we never actually went to sleep. Turns out baby wanted to cry for literally 7 hours straight after birth.
We all finally fall asleep at 7am. I open my eyes about half hour later to a doctor, no, a trainee, staring at me. As soon as my eyes have opened he promptly asks how I am feeling and then leaves. What the F?! You just WOKE ME UP after being up 24 hours prior to the birth, then giving birth, then being up all night with crying baby and contraction-like pains from my uterus shrinking, and then having just fallen asleep, you ask me how I’m feeling?
Okay, I’ll get over it.
So, we get up and prepare for my parents and Little N’s arrival. I get the camera ready and then sit and marvel at this new little creation that only hours before had been in my belly.
I get a call from Grandma that they are almost at the maternity ward so I get up and wait at the entrance to the ward. I’m really excited to see my little girl and give her a big hug! I have this whole plan to give her lots of attention while visiting with the baby so she knows just how much we love her.
After all, we have been preparing for this moment for months. Explaining how baby is growing in mum’s tummy, talking about a new baby sister, etc. But do they really get that their little lives as they know it will very rudely and quickly change?
I see her coming down the hallway and I gear up for a big hug. No, that doesn’t happen. She just kind of saunters by me, more curious about the wall despite not seeing mum for the last few days.
We head back to the hospital room after I coax a tiny, split second hug from her. We walk inside and I steer Little N to the bassinet where her baby sister lies all swaddled up. She glances over, but is generally disinterested.
I’m not discouraged.
I scoop up baby M, sit on the bed with her and call over Little N to get a better look and to maybe even sit with Mummy! No, she’s not having any of that either. The bribing starts.
Commmmonnn, come sit with me and the baby
We can take a picture!
Want to see the baby?
Look at her little face!
Little N, come here, I miss you!
Want some snacks?
Okay, that did it. Snacks always work. So she climbs up and sits with me. Now to get a picture. She’s already squirming away, I gotta make this fast!
We manage to snap one photo. On an iPhone. Not even with our brand new big expensive $700 camera.
My hopes of this magical picture that gets framed and displayed on the wall proudly as the moment we all fell in love with our new family completely dashed.
Little N gets off the bed. She’s already headed to the door, demanding Grandma make her some lunch.
Sigh.
The funny thing is. I still absolutely loved that moment no matter how ‘imperfect’ it was.
It wasn’t until a week or so after Baby M came home that Little N actually became interested in her. I think for a while she thought Baby M was a doll.
What was your sibling introduction moments like?
Great post! With my second baby, my oldest was 20 months old and she was very intrigued and “helped” by covering the baby with all the baby blankets. When my third came home from the hospital in August, we stepped in the door and I had to run to the restroom and while I was in there with the baby, my parents came into the house with the two older kids (they had been watching them) and everyone ended up in the tiny bathroom. It was a super awkward but special moment in the loo. 😉
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They are definitely special moments that we remember no matter where they take place, eh! Thanks, I will check out your linky!
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thanks!! i’ll stop by then!!
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How beautiful! I think it turned out great!! This is the start of so many memories between them, some of which will only make YOU, their sweet momma, giggle with delight! Loved reading this story!!
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Thanks so much! Can’t wait to watch them grow up together 🙂
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It’s funny how you build these things up and they never play out that way. Glad she is finally taking a bit more interest. Thanks for hosting #wineandboobs
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I know, eh. The emotions are so built up! Thanks for linking 🙂
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Aww – I don’t think it ever goes as expected! My second one decided to be born in a bit of a hurry. From the very first start of labour to birth was under an hour & the birth was recorded as 30 seconds by the paramedics. It was just after 7am & the paramedics arriving woke up my then 15 month old eldest. So daddy brought her into the bedroom & she was wandering in the background behind the paramedics when her baby sister was born! Then a paramedic gave her breakfast. So she thought the whole thing was great! #wineandboobs
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That is an amazing story!! Were you scared? Mine was over and done with in 3 hours and I thought that was quick! Go mumma! And thanks for linking on #wineandboobs
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I was a little shocked! I shook so badly for so long afterwards (& always have low blood pressure) that I heard the paramedic tell midwives when they dropped me at hospital to make really certain I wasn’t bleeding internally! But,no, I was just surprised! 3 hours is quick too – nice afterwards that it was quick, isn’t it? Love your new linky! #famjamlinky
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Aw bless. Things never go to plan when it comes to children.. Sounds lovely nonetheless! #wineandboobs
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Thanks haha beautiful messy moments, I tell ya. #wineandboobs
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Back again linking up to your new linky! Thanks for hosting #famjamlinky 🙂
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That’s a very cute story. You’ll have loads more opportunities to use that expensive new camera. My daughter was 10 when my son was born. She was so excited for her new brother that she missed field day at school (the funniest day of the year) to come see him. She still talks about it haha. #wineandboobs
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That’s awesome!
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Really sweet story that you can tell your kids as they get older. Our eldest was actually with us for the birth of our third child and certainly she felt it was really special….for about 10 minutes and then she wanted pizza. #wineandboobs
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That’s hilarious
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Ha! Sounds like my son (who was 17 months at the time). He was ignoring me completely, wouldn’t even look at me! Took awhile for him to come around, though we did get some nice photos, I was clearly the bad guy for abandoning him. #wineandboobs
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Exactly eh! Glad I’m not the only one who was ignored! haha
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Ah, I loved reading this. I am not even expecting, but dream of Oliver meeting his new baby brother/sister, ha! Maybe I should prepare that it won’t go to plan!
Becky xx
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Haha it’s still an amazing moment! 🙂
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My Lil Man immediately took to his baby sister but then we were in hospital for 2 weeks before I brought her home so he had time to get used to the idea.
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Awe that’s great!
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I was completely spaced when Jet me Stella, but we have a gorgeous pic of him holding her whilst sitting on my husband’s knee. It is now my fb profile pic 🙂
Nice new linky – good luck with it! #famjamlinky
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Glad you got a great pic! Hope you come back next week 🙂 #famjamlinky
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Awww, it was the same here I thought it would be such a moment to remember and it was when it finally happened but I was so knackered to take it all in 😦
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Definitely know whatcha mean 🙂 Hope to see you back next week! #famjamlinky
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You know what, I can;t really remember… how sad is that? I remember crying when i saw my little boy; damn hormones… #famjamlinky
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Haha! Them hormones still get me! thanks for posting to #famjamlinky
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I always have picture perfect ideas and they never go there plan! When F met N he tickled his toes lol!! #famjamlinky xx
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That’s adorable! Thanks for linking #famjamlinky
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I love this! you can imagine it any way but whatever way it happens it’s such a special, emotional time x
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Thank you 🙂 Hope to see you back next week
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haha this made me smile. I reckon my daughter will be exactly the same if we have another. Never like your dreams eh? I hope all is going well now. haha #famjamlinky
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haha we all laugh about it now! Thanks for linking #famjamlinky
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my stepdaughter was 12 when we brought home our little bundle of joy, so it went a little different. Congrats on the new arrival
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This is so funny. My kids are 8 years apart and my son was in love with his sister from the get go. But he was older and protective. I’ve never given thought to what a toddler feels when a baby comes into their lives! Definitely not like it is on the television or movies, is it? Thanks God for snacks! And you will have the iPhone photo to remember this always!
BTW, congratulations!
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Haha totally different! She has adjusted very well though (baby now 5 months). Thanks for stopping by!
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I must admit (don’t hate me) it went a lot smoother at my end. Actually my eldest was impeccable but it was the daddy that ruined the moment. Having been separated from number 1 for 4 days (the longest I’d been without her) and drugged up with post c-section meds, I was a little emotional. Oh yeah and I’d JUST HAD A BABY so I was hormonal. Naturally I shed a few tears upon seeing my eldest. Hubby looked puzzled. Then he proceeded to tell me that in the car on the way to nursery that morning she’d said “Mummy gone”. That was it. Full blown water works from me on hearing this. You know what the silly sod of a husband said? “NOW why are you crying?” Pffffff.
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Hahaha but it’s funny now right!! Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Awww, ‘Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful’: Case in point! Lovely story. Apologies for commenting late on #wineandboobs, but good reads come to those who wait!
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Thanks 🙂
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It’s hard to get them interested in something until they’re ready! I had a pretty ‘Hallmark card’ moment introducing my two – my in-laws brought Little Miss 21 months to the hospital to meet her little bro and she ran towards us with arms outstretched – there was much laughing and tears of joy and eye-poking prevention 😉
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Haha awe that’s amazing! 🙂 Eye-poking prevention at the max!
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Awww!
I’m pregnant with number two at the moment, so will bare you story in mind if it doesn’t quite go
to plan when introducing my three year old!
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You just never know how it’s going to go! Definitely an amazing time. Hope you’re feelin well with your pregnancy.
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